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I thought to myself with Halloween in just 2 days I would write about masks and images. Imagine, my friends, the world as a grand stage, a big theater. Each day, we don the costumes of our perceived identities: the professional, the parent, the friend. While a part of our reality, these roles often necessitate a performance that may not fully resonate with our inner truths. In our professional lives, we speak in calculated tones, articulating thoughts that align more with corporate agendas than personal beliefs. As parents, we adopt a tone of unwavering authority and assurance. Even in times when troubled by doubts and fears. In these moments, are we truly being ourselves? Or are we merely actors following a well-rehearsed script? Now, consider the mask — a literal or metaphorical veil that covers our identity. Historically, masks have been used in rituals and theater to help individuals transcend their everyday selves and speak unspeakable truths. In the anonymity of the mask,...

Love is a beautiful thing... Seeing two people fall in love with themselves is one of the beautiful things you will see in this life. The problem, however, is when hearts are broken and story turns sour. Your love for someone does not guarantee their love for you. Nothing you do impresses someone who doesn’t love you as much. No matter how hard you try, they are just not into you. Sometimes, it is not about what you did or didn't do, he or she is not just into you and you don't blame them if they don't value you as much as you really are worth. You should rather blame yourself for staying too long in a space you're not fully received, perhaps you didn't realize on time. Normalize the fact that , you may not necessarily be your lover’s lover and you may not be your best friend's best friend. People choose who should occupy those spaces based on reasons best known to them, so just calm yourself down. Stop killing yourself for the wrong people, it means almos...

I get asked all sorts of questions. Literally, from A to Z. One that got emailed to me recently was the problem of evil. Bluntly asking “Did God create evil?” The short answer is No, I don’t think He did. So let me take a few moments to explain why I feel that way. As with everything in this blog these are my thoughts. My wish and desire is that as you read you keep an open mind but you also know I am human and I make mistakes. But permit me the opportunity to share what rattles around in my brain. The first issue we need to define is the nature of evil. What do we mean when we say something is evil?  I believe the person was using the term to define any type of disaster or bad thing. I am using the term to define immoral behaviors, such as torturing babies.  Now, I would like to look at four common tricky areas that need to be dissected in order to answer the question. Ontology and Epistemology of God and Evil. The terms ontology and epistemology are philosophical terms b...

How am I meant to feel to now be at 56?  In fact, tomorrow is my birthday, so perhaps I ought to figure this 56 year old stuff out before too long.   Being 56 years old is a curious thing and again I’m still trying to work out what it means. My daughter, who is now 13 years old, thinks of me as being old.  (Kai’s pronouns are they/them so you will see me use they/them throughout this post. Yes, it can be confusing. However, I respect them too much to not address them how they want to be addressed)   Lately,  from time to time they will look for grey hairs to prove their point, not that I have many grey hairs.  Also, they are at the very start of their secondary education journey and figuring out their direction in life, thoughts of being at the other end must seem like a million years away. They aren’t sure whether I am a wise and old who considers things carefully before saying anything, or someone who is still heading there.  Almost certainly ...

Trans Awareness and the Culture War, and Inclusivity I can still remember seeing Laverne Cox on the cover of a copy of Time magazine laying on my dining room table.   She was the first trans person I can remember seeing represented on such a huge stage even remotely close to on her own terms—not as a joke or a victim or a freak. Time called it the “transgender tipping point,” and for me, it was one of the most memorable images from a pivotal period of my own life, when I realized first that I could come out and then that I had to. If I could talk with Cox feels it could be like a fairytale. But I’m not the first person to feel that way if I got a chance to talk to a woman whose success has become symbolic of the increasing space for trans people in public life in the United States. The quotes you will see in this blog are all taken from countless interviews I have read or seen with her on TV. With that in mind, let’s begin shall we … “What has been so beautiful about being ...