Ignore the Noise

Ignore the Noise

Since coming out as transgender later in life it has been extremely hard on many levels. However , recently I am lucky and fortunate enough to work with some really smart people and affirming people. I have noticed through discussions and their leadership that certain pattern or steps and behaviors that these high incredible performing people seem to follow. 


Whether these steps are intentional unintentional, it’s allowed me the opportunity to create what I refer to as  “Ignore the Noise”.

 

On your transgender road to you will likely encounter a lot of distractions. Most of these distractions are there to derail you from your goals or at the very least cause you to focus your energy and attention on the wrong things.

 

Let’s start with the most obvious- our smart phones and technical gadgets. We know that tech companies have created software designed to tap into our basic human needs for stimulation. All the binging and buzzing, scrolling and tapping isn’t there by accident. These algorithms are training us to focus our attention on the small shots of dopamine being released into our systems every time we find something on our tiny screens that interest us.

 

While I love my technical gadgets and probably would have a hard time running my life without them, I also am aware of the need to unplug from the matrix as much as possible.

 

Another form of noise is the constant bombardment of political advertisements in our seemingly never-ending cycle of elections. No matter which side of the aisle you fall or what policies you support. Now, I’m all for getting out there and voting- but does election day have to be every day? If we must actually see and hear about these elections on a 365 day news schedule- here’s a grand idea- Stop talking about what the other candidate is not, and start talking about what type of candidate YOU are!

 

Nothing is distracted easier than a quick poke at political values and religious ideals. Keep yourself out of the fray and focus on what creates value for you and your life.

 

Probably one of the most challenging of all the distractions we face… Naysayers. You know these people. Some are in your family, some work with you, some are for you and some are simply the people you surround yourself with outside the workplace that you like to label as ‘friends’. 


These people simply have nothing good to say about what you want and where you are going. They like to pick apart your journey and point out each and every flaw of it.

These are the folks that simply love pontificating on why what you are doing is wrong.

 

Anything great that’s ever been accomplished by anyone, no doubt had a lot of people standing around telling them it couldn’t be done. Over sixty years ago a gentleman named Roger Bannister had a goal to run the first mile in under 4 minutes. Doctors and scientists repeatedly said humans aren’t designed for that and it was physically impossible, some even thought the heart would simply explode under such exertion. Of course we all know that Bannister ignored the naysayers and went out and became the first man to accomplish such an amazing feat. What’s most and i find interesting is that within a week of breaking the four-minute mile- two other people went out and did it as well.

 

Anyone can stand on the sidelines and give you lists of reason why you are wrong. I think that sometimes this journey requires us to put on our blinders and earplugs and power forward. At some point you may want to consider replacing some of those people around you with others that are excited for you to accomplish more in your authentic life. A good friend once told me once and i will never forget it. He said “people are like buoys in the ocean. Some float in and some float out. Let them float out and replace and cultivate the good ones that float in”. Thanks Ryan.

 

If you truly plan to be successful in your journey and in your life, than learn to Ignore the Noise and focus your energy and attention on your goals and outcomes is not just a good idea, it’s essential.

 

This week take some time to identify to the main distractions in your life that derail you from your plans and cause you to focus your effort on the wrong things. Then take a few minutes to decide on a strategy to avoid each of them.


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